We all face difficult times. It’s normal. And when we try to change the course of our life, those times seem to become more frequent. But what if you could actually embrace and accept those times and stop fearing and rejecting them?
This is what I want to share with you today. How to deal with difficult times in life: 5 easy tips to use right away. These are tips I’m using myself and that are allowing me to go through tough times more easily.
1. Everybody has difficult times
It’s okay to have one. Even if it seems to be for no reasons sometimes. Even the greatest leaders have difficult times. Just accept it, do not fight it. If you can’t do anything about the situation, just let go. Know that everything in life comes and goes. So this will pass too. You can’t always grow, it’s the cycle of life.
2. Difficult times are good
Yes, you read me right. Just a quick question: where does your most valuable lesson come from in life? I bet it’s coming from a difficult time! It’s not obvious at the moment, but you will eventually take some benefits away from this difficult time. The sooner you manage to do it, the better.
So take this as an opportunity to grow, don’t suffer for nothing, and know that everything in life happens for a reason. Truly believing that life is happening FOR me and not AGAINST me changed my perspective a great deal. And by the way, when we say it’s “bad”, it’s a judgment, it’s our own interpretation. The truth is, it’s just happening: that’s the only truth we know.
3. Take a step back
Some perspective can help sometimes. Are you really feeling that bad? Are you in danger? Thinking that there are some bigger problems on the planet can help. Like, there are children starving every day, people dying every day. I’m not saying that our problems don’t matter, it just feels less painful that way.
And remember this: most of the time, the things you’re worried about today, you won’t even think about them in 1 month.
4. Focus on the positive, not the negative
Usually, when I feel down or depressed, it’s because I’m completely inside my head, focused on all the things that are wrong at the time. It’s obvious, right? By keeping my mind busy with negative thoughts, my experience is very unlikely to improve. So next time, try to focus on all the things that are going well in your life.
5. Focus on the solution, be proactive
Focus on the solution, not on the problem. Focusing too long on the problem is a waste of time and energy, you’re being passive. If there is something you can do about your situation, do it. If there is nothing you can do, you have to accept it. For example, if you’re in a period where you’re running out of money. Do not focus on the lack of money, by saying things such as “Oh my god I’m broke, I won’t be able to pay for the rent”. Instead, say: “How can I find more money this month?”. I find the “how can I …” formulation very powerful to engage our positive and creative thinking.
I hope these 5 tips will be useful to deal with difficult times in your life. Tell me what you think of it! And most importantly, remember, you’re okay!