INFPs & ENFPs: How To Change Your Mood (Beware Of Self Help!)

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We all experience bad days. Sometimes from a silly email, sometimes it’s just our mood, sometimes everything goes wrong. But maybe, in this era of self-help, you’ve tried to change your mood, to reach a more positive state, just to find that it doesn’t work and it’s just making things worse.

I’ve found that ENFPs and INFPs are more likely to experience this, but I think everybody can relate.

A single event can easily become 2 days of struggle. Especially if you need to be in a certain state, for example if you need to be in flow to have creative ideas. It was my case, I struggled for 3 days this week to find a topic for this video!!

So I want to share what I’ve learned about that, and how we can actually be aware of this and still turn it into a productive day, to feel better and fresh the next day. It’s simple but we need to be aware of it! It’s all about using other processes in our brain.

So check out the video to discover how to limit the frustration and still get things done!

Thanks, enjoy 🙂

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Main Causes Of Depression

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Do you know what are the main causes of depression? Why is it that in today’s world, where we have everything to be happy, more and more people are feeling depressed?

The mainstream answer to this is that depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain. That’s why drugs and antidepressants are mainly prescribed. For a lot of people, it’s great at first, but then, the pain starts to come back. The doses need to go up, and soon, people are both depressed and medicated.

Depression has actually multiple causes, and is more due to an imbalanced way of life. It’s not only biology. So when drugs are not enough, we have to dig deeper and offer more solutions.

In this video, I’m sharing what I’ve learned from Marisa Peer (therapist) and Johann Hari (ex depressed), along with what I’ve learned from my own periods when I felt down.

You will discover that depressed people are not broken, not crazy or weak, and that it’s all to do with unmet needs and behaviors.

Check out my last video below if you want to know the main causes of depression and how to act right away to overcome it!

Thank you for watching!

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Don’t Be Afraid To Fail A Lot: Failure Is Part Of Success

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There is a chance that you want more for your life, that you’re not completely satisfied with where you are right now.

You know what you have to do, in order to reach your dreams or your goals, but you’re so afraid to fail that you’re paralyzed, and you just do nothing.

If you want to discover how to overcome your fear of failure, this is exactly what you’ll get in the video below.

You will have tools to deal with fear of failure, and you will have a different perspective about it. You will even learn that failure is actually your friend and that you shouldn’t be scared of failure!

So if you want to go after what you want in life, check it out!

Watch on YouTube.

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Why You Procrastinate So Often

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Are you familiar with putting things off? Really needing to do something, but the more you try, the more it seems impossible to start? Are you feeling lazy?

Let me tell you that we all struggle with procrastination. But the thing is that procrastination is not the problem.

Discover in this video why we procrastinate so often and how we can overcome it!

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Enjoy! And thanks for watching 🙂

How To Develop Self-Discipline: Build Habits That Last

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We all tried to start exercising or begin a new diet, stuck to it for a week, just to give up and go back to the old behavior. It’s absolutely normal. It’s the way our brain works. Our mind loves what’s familiar and comfortable.

By the end of the video below, you will know how habit works and how to build them efficiently and effortlessly.

I now exercise every day, work from home and wake up at 7 am every day with only one alarm! If it sounds like something you’d like to do, watch my last video!

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Thank you for watching 🙂

Choose Your Words Carefully: They Are Controlling Your Life

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Have you ever realized that we are our worst critic? The mental chatter going on in our mind is usually pretty negative.

But the good news is that we have the power to change it. We even have the power to make it positive!

If you’re especially impacted by your negative self-talk, watch the video below where I demonstrate the power of words, why we should choose carefully, and the benefits of doing so.

How To Change Your Behavior With No Effort

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We all have areas we want to improve in. But these areas are also the ones where we struggle the most. Maybe you’ve tried to overcome procrastination? To be more confident? In vain?

Discover how to do it, with no effort, without wondering how you will do it, but just by using your brain and the way it’s supposed to operate.

Have the goal in mind, and let your brain work automatically towards it. By doing the work just 15-30min per day.

If you want to discover the method, check out my last video!

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How To Use Your Mind: From Enemy To Ally. UNLOCK YOUR POWER!

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Transcript below:

Have you ever wanted something and found out that your mind is your biggest obstacle? Like it’s your enemy instead of your friend?

Well in this video I’m going to explain to you how our mind works how our brain works and how we can use it as an ally instead of an enemy.

Maybe you want to work on a project and you’re really motivated, but as soon as you want to start your mind goes “no don’t want to do it, go and watch Netflix”, for example. So I’m going to explain to you what I’ve learned about the mind, how it works and how to use it properly. And all these techniques, I’m learning them from a training that I’m currently following, it’s a training from Marisa Pier, the famous therapist.

As I said I’m passionate about how the mind works and I want to use it to help people overcome their challenges and remove any blockages.

1. Pain and Pleasure associations

So, let’s dive in. So the first thing to know about the mind, and this point alone can be really effective in changing your behavior and in understanding how to use your mind. The only thing that your mind does is it keeps you away from pain. So if you take a look you will see that all of your actions are related to either pain or pleasure.

Indeed when you do something, it’s either to gain pleasure or to avoid pain, so it all comes down to the meaning you attach to the activity, to your behavior. Let’s say you want to start exercising and you’ve been procrastinating, you’ve been postponing it. The reason why you’ve been postponing it is because when you think about exercising, it’s painful, you know it will be hard. And the minute you will start to exercise and actually do it is because it’s too painful not to do it.

Let’s take another example. Let’s say you have an important project to work on, you know you have to do it. Have you ever wondered why we always at shcool waited like two days before the deadline before starting the work? Because when you have one month to do something, the first days it’s just too painful to get to work because you know you still have time but by approaching the end you know that if you don’t get to work it will have worse consequences and then you start to work. So it’s all about pain and pleasure and by knowing this the very powerful thing is that you can change things, you can change the meaning you attach to things.

For example, let’s say you’re on a diet and you want to stop eating sugar. It’s very hard because usually what goes on is “Oh, I love ice cream or I love chocolate” of course your brain is going to make you want it because it gives you pleasure. But then you eat the chocolate or you eat the pizza and right after you feel bad because you just ate something that’s not good for your body.

So what you could do is link pain to eating pizza or eating chocolate and link pleasure to not eating it. For example, every time you want to eat chocolate or pizza you can picture yourself like being really fat not fit not able to do exercise and you can see that by refusing the chocolate or the pizza or whatever it is, link pleasure to this by thinking: Yeah, I will be able to fit my clothes. I will be able to exercise, I will be able to look good in my clothes; so it’s all a matter of attaching a different meaning to it.

Have you ever experienced like really wanting to do something and instead of doing it just lie on the couch or take a nap? If yes let me know by commenting below I would really like to know, because we are the same we’ve all been there!

2. Your Mind Does What It Thinks You Want It To Do

The second point is about how your mind works and it’s not about making you miserable because all that your mind wants to do is to make you survive and make you happy. Your mind doesn’t say “okay. He wants to be fit. So let’s make him eat pizza!”. No, if you’re eating pizza it’s because you’ve told your mind that you really like it. What you tell your mind is what your mind does.

Let me give you an example of why your mind does exactly what it thinks you want it to do. The story is about a woman that couldn’t have children because she didn’t have her periods. And what she discovered is that when she was a child she was having really bad periods, like very painful ones, to the point where she couldn’t go out when having the periods because the pain was so intense. She couldn’t be around people and so she started to tell herself “I don’t want these periods, these periods are so horrible”. “It’s hurting me so bad I don’t want them”, and she kept saying that to herself over and over again every time she had her periods.

Eventually, her periods were gone. So this is the power of the mind over the body, but several years later she wanted to have children and that became a problem because she needed her periods back to be able to ovulate and to have children. No matter how hard she tried, she couldn’t have her periods because her mind believed that periods were bad. When she was saying “Okay, I need my periods back” her mind said “no, you don’t! You hate those remember?” So the whole point is understanding that your mind does what it thinks you want what it thinks is in your best interest, it’s trying to protect you. It’s trying to move you away from pain remember?

So what it means is you have to dialogue with it very consciously and tell it exactly what want, for example if you want to lose weight, let’s take back the example of the pizza and salad. Lets say you’re going to a restaurant and you’re looking at the menu and you’re looking at all the pizza and all the fatty foods and you’re saying “Oh, there’s pizza, but I have to eat a salad” and then your mind will go: “No, you don’t you love pizza remember? It makes you feel good!”. Because it thinks it’s in your best interest, so if you say “no no no, I will have the salad” then you eat the salad and then you feel frustrated and it goes the same if you choose to eat the pizza you would be frustrated after. So what you have to do is telling your mind exactly what you want. Just say “No. I could have the pizza but I’m choosing to have the salad because it’s actually good for me” and your mind will go: “Oh, okay. You’re choosing it so there is no reason I’m giving you any resistance against it because it’s what you’re choosing”. It’s what’s in your best interest.

By explaining that I’m choosing to eat the salad to be able to fit in my clothes and to see the same weight on the scale, your mind will go”Yeah Sure do it!” and the same goes for exercising.

My own experience with it was that I wanted to exercise and make it a habit but I started and stopped at least five times. And I started one last time and up to this day I never stopped and it was because at the beginning I was saying things like “I need to work out”. “I need to do some exercise”. But the voice in the back of my head was “I don’t really want tp, I’d prefer to lie on my bed or watch TV”. But when I started to change and to explain, “okay, I may not enjoy it right now, but my body will love it, it would be good for me” and by actually saying over and over, “I like it, I need it, I enjoy it” and explaining my mind that I really need it and I want it, now my mind lets me do it and even pushes me to do it. So that’s the magic!

OkaySo if I have to sum up just remember that your mind does what it thinks you want it to do and it’s only based on pain and pleasure. If you remember those two things you can choose to do whatever you want.

So now you understand how to use your mind efficiently and in a way that empowers you because really the mind is a tool. It’s not you versus your mind. It’s you who can use your mind. We are all able to use this amazing tool. So go ahead and do it!

I hope you guys really got some value from this video because this principle really helped me to achieve what I want so if you like the video please tell me by liking, subscribing to my channel and letting me know in the comments below!

Thank you for your time with me!

How To Shift Your State

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Too often, we forget about the importance of our state. We only focus on our words, on what to say. Would you agree that the same message, said with two different states of self, come across very differently? Imagine someone giving a motivational speech. In the first version, he is enthusiastic and full of energy. In the second version, he looks full of doubt and kind of sad. Which one is the most effective, even though the words are the same? It’s obvious, right?

But we too often forget this. I want to share why it’s so important and how we can benefit from this with a quick technique.

1. The importance of state of self

Words are only a fraction of what’s communicated. State of self and body language are much more important. Because your state determines how you will act, how you will show up, and how you will speak.

Imagine you’re about to have an interview for a new job. You’re sitting, nervous, in the waiting room. You’ve rehearsed the typical questions, your qualities, your flaws. You think you’re ready, but you’re very nervous. What if the interview goes wrong? What if you don’t get it? You’re trapped inside of your head. And that’s because you’re only thinking about words. You’re only focused on all the worst-case scenarios. So if you see yourself as clumsy, nervous, doubtful, how do you think that your interviewer will see you? He will see a projection of your mind. A nervous person.

So, we get it, it’s obvious, the state in which we are is very important and determines how we feel and how we act. But how can we change it, fast?

2. A simple way to shift your state to a positive one

The good thing about state is that we can change it very fast. Let me share my experience with you.

The mind and body are connected. How we move influences how we feel and how we think. And the other way around is true as well. You can test it right now. Stand up, cross your arms and look down. You should feel a lack of energy, doubt, and closed. But now, stand up, put your arms to the side, with your palms facing front. Chin up, and take a deep breath. You should feel more open, confident, and more energy.

So the good news is that we can shift our state very quickly. You start with the body, your posture, and then you go on with your thoughts, by focusing on the positive instead of the negative.

Let’s take the interview example again. Much better preparation would be: stand and have a confident posture, at least try to have it. Then, instead of focusing on how everything could go wrong, focus on how and why you’re able to perform well. Read my article about positive interrogation again, it can help. So you might ask “how can I give my best today?”, “why am I capable of getting this job?”. By doing this preparation, you will feel much more confident and in a much better state. It’s very powerful, and it’s fast.

I’ve used it a lot recently, for any kind of situation where I might feel anxious. It’s just practice. I have been surprised by how at first you’re kind of faking it, and then it becomes natural. We often tell stories about ourselves, in our head, but it’s just our perception. We can change.

3. One key takeaway

If you were to remember only one thing, the key here is very simple: “think about how the perfect version of you would act and think in a particular situation. Then, start doing it right now”.

It’s that simple, so go ahead and try! And please share with me your perspective on this topic!

Are You Clear About What You Want In Life?

Are You Clear About What You Want In Life?

Have you taken the time to think about your direction? About what you want to accomplish? Or do you just feel you’re going where life is taking you?

I’ve been drifting through life for a long time until I realized I have the power to choose my direction. I’m sharing here my realization and how to stay focused.

1. Switch off the autopilot

I spent a lot of my life, (actually, 26 years) having a vague idea of what I wanted, trying to cope with life, and ending up disappointed because I was not happy with the result. And this was because I didn’t have a clear sense of where I was going.

Maybe it sounds familiar to you, you know when we say “I’ll just see how it goes”, or “I’ll see where it leads me”. I felt like that when I chose what to study, after high school. I felt the same when I started my first job. I was just trying to go with the flow, not really knowing where I wanted to go, trying to do my best with what I had at the time.

Back then, I didn’t understand a crucial truth: life does not happen to us, we create our life.

Because when you think about it, is it a surprise that we end up in a place where we don’t want to be, when we didn’t even decide where to go? It’s like driving without setting a destination. Where will you end up? Anywhere!

My point is, how can you work towards a better life if you didn’t define what it is first? So let me ask you: are you clear about what you want in life?

2. The importance of having a clear vision and how to do it

The first step is to get clear on your vision. On where you want to go. Otherwise, it’s like running with a blindfold on. You’re still doing a lot of effort, but you might be going in the wrong direction.

It might take time, it’s not something you have to answer in one day. Personally, it took me one year to be very clear about what I wanted. It’s a process. So just keep asking yourself: are you clear about what you want in life? Where do you want to be in 3 years? Just think about something that matters to you. Even if it’s something you want to avoid. For instance, when I quit my job, I didn’t know what I wanted to do at all. But I knew that I didn’t want to go back to the same kind of job. So this was my starting point. Just start somewhere! But it’s crucial that you think about what you want to do with your life.

Once you have an idea of where you want to go, of who you want to be, write it down. But don’t forget about it. Refresh it, every day. Keep the focus. Because it’s so easy to get distracted and end up doing something that will not get you closer to your goal. Every day, spend 10 minutes on your vision. On what you want your life to look like. And act towards it.

So stop today drifting through your life, it’s time to take control of it. Just do it. This is the most important question: are you clear about what you want in life?